We all have those few things we don’t like about ourselves. It could be your hair or your smile. You might think you’re too tall or too short. Maybe you can’t stand the sound of your own laugh. You’re the only one who notices these things, but they drive you insane.
I have a few of them, but there is one thing I really can’t stand.
I’m a whiner.
I do it ALL the time. I could be having the best day, and I will find something to complain about. Maybe I just use it for conversation; I really don’t know. All I know is I can turn a perfectly fine day into a bad one just by whining about some minuscule detail. I’m kind of a bummer.
An author and motivational speaker by the name of Rita Schiano said something that really spoke to me:
Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.
Break the habit.
Talk about your joys.
Have you ever thought about that? Complaining is an addiction. What do we do after a long week at school? We hang out with friends and whine about our professors, or classmates, or assignments or anything, really. It’s a stress reliever for most.
Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t ever complain. Things happen, and we should be allowed to talk about them. What I’m suggesting is we balance our complaints with our joys. Let the good parts of our lives be just as influential as the bad.
We should pay more attention to our conversations. Is what we are saying important? Is the complaining doing anything other than bringing us down? What if we tried to outweigh the bad with all of the good?
For every complaint, mention two joys.
Even if you have to write them down at night instead of saying them in conversation, try to realize when you are whining and counteract it. Recognize the good in your life, and share it with those you love.
This is a challenge I am going to take myself. I’m determined to break this bad habit and become a more uplifting person. No one likes a bummer!